Romantic relationships are hard. Long-term compatibility is difficult and hard to predict. Relationships end. When they do, it seems that it is almost required for the former partners to nearly disavow the others’ existence. Does it really make sense for us to discard people when those romantic relationships end? What once was close connection becomes cold, distant. Does my interest in you only extend as far as my romantic connection? Or, to put it more crassly, am I only interested in you if you’re sharing my bed?
No, emphatically no! (well, maybe that occasional hottie who seduces me before I get my senses, which doesn’t happen very frequently).
I only choose to date people with whom I feel a broader connection. I keep my heart open – I don’t preciously guard connection, caring and even love. They tumble forth when I connect. I choose to love with abandon. This does open up the possibility of getting my heart-broken. I see no other way to live this life fully, passionately. A broken heart is not my biggest fear. (more…)