To put a finer point on it, our collective desire to avoid slight dis-ease, compounds other’s suffering. (more…)
So many aspects of our culture in my eyes are linked to this idea. From rampant consumerism (if I buy that BMW or those shoes or ??, then I can be happy) to recreational medicine (if I don’t look like I’m getting closer to death, perhaps I can avoid it all together) to an endemic lack of will to tackle big social or economic problems (blame the victim mentality of various stripes). From that point of view, I could not have imagined that “Don’t Worry, Be Happy” ethos could be so pernicious.
The basic tendency to move away from pain or discomfort and move towards pleasure makes it very difficult for the idea of “without pain there is no pleasure” to land on people. Or, to personalize, it resonates with me intellectually but is wholly unhelpful to me emotionally or psychically. I might be willing to accept somewhat reduced positive affect to avoid the negative kind. I believe lots of people would make that trade-off. They’ll vote for emotional stability or, perhaps more precisely, lower variance in emotionality over truly experiencing the pains and joys of the world. The fear of getting stuck or lingering too long or being permanently scared by those negative experiences keeps many people stuck in repression of all kinds. (more…)
“Instead of getting better and better at avoiding, learn to accept the present moment as if you had invited it. And work with it instead of against it. And making it your ally rather than your enemy.”